Time for another rambling, stream of consciousness post!
So, I’ve never considered myself a feminist. In my life and my experience I’ve found that for every inequality suffered by women, there is another suffered by men. I am in favour of equal rights for all people so I don’t pick one group to champion over any others.
Recently, I’ve been educating myself on men’s rights issues. I read about a man asked to move seats on a flight so he wasn’t sitting next to a child. This man was automatically assumed to be a paedophile just because he is a man. I read about a man who helped a lesbian couple conceive a child, only to later be sued for child support when the mothers fell upon hard times. I read countless stories of men who had been raped only to be laughed at when they went for help or to press charges.
Spurred on by these stories I sought out information on men’s rights, to see what people were doing and how the inequalities were being fought.
I was surprised by what I found.
Instead of focusing on spreading their message to receptive minds and engaging in peaceful activism, men’s rights activists seem to just want to hate feminists. When questioned they say that the masses are too brainwashed by the idea of the ‘patriarchy’ to be won over. Instead of being ‘Pro-men’ they’ve become ‘anti-woman’. But hasn’t feminism done the same?
Treating all men like potential rapists, abusers and paedophiles isn’t furthering any cause. Treating all women as gold diggers looking to trap men be filling their wombs isn’t helping anyone.
Almost every issue of gender equality could be addressed and amended if the two groups recognised their mutual interests and worked together but too many feminists have hated men for too long to believe that men can be raped and abused and too many men’s rights activists have been treated like rapists and paedophiles to trust them.
It makes me sad that people can’t talk to each other, in most situations communication would fix a lot.
Food for thought, why does a woman have the right to terminate a pregnancy that the father wants to keep?