So, after reading this (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-10786279) very interesting article about women who are childless by choice (that’s me) I got to thinking.
What is the best way to explain to someone why I’m not planning on having children?
Especially the argument that once you have children you realise it’s what you always wanted which seems like a horribly flawed argument to me.
Before long (and after a funny conversation) it dawned on me, having a baby is like getting a tattoo. It’s a fairly irreversible decision that will be with you for the rest of your life. Most people will put a lot of thought into having one but they can also happen after a foolish drunken night. Once you have one you either have to learn to love it and live with it or make the difficult decision to get rid of it one way or another. There’s aftercare with both and the level of care you give will be reflected in the end result.
Ultimately what it comes down to is if you are sensible, you will think long and hard about having a tattoo, you will weigh up the pros and cons and you will make sure that it’s something you’re going to want for the rest of your life. If you can’t be sure that it’s what you want then you won’t do it.
And that, my friends, is why I have decided not to have children and also why that is subject to change.